Asking myself this question has been a great help in guiding me through life and I wanted to share it with you.. and hopefully it would be helpful for you too.
Am I coming from a place of Love?
Looking back I made many of my adult life decisions from a place of lack- fear of not being enough and trying to do things to compensate for it.
Until the beginning chapter of starting little sketchy. Oh it felt different -a sense of satisfaction words cannot describe. I didn’t know what it was. but now I do. i felt that way because it was a decision coming from a place of love. I was genuinely curious and inspired. I wanted to learn and play, without giving much thoughts to the outcome. not to trying proof anything.. Just being fully present in the process. it was coming from a place of love.
A while back I also had this “dream”- I wanted to go on a big travel adventure, move far away from Perth and start a new life.
I became so attached to the idea that even the slightest change in plan I became so upset and felt complete loss of power. I wanted it so badly that it had to happen right now or never.
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with the “dream” itself. Travel adventure is great! moving is great too!
But was I coming from a place of love?
I started questioning.. ‘why do I want it so badly that it hurts.. why is thinking about this “dream” bringing me more pain than joy?’ I painted this perfect picture in my mind: if I leave my life here and be somewhere else. My life would really start..full of amazing adventure & excitement.. I would then feel a sense of freedom.
I realised, I was coming from a place of lack.
Because I was chasing after something outside of me (in this case- moving) to fill the lack within me - freedom… I felt trapped & powerless in my life at the time then I had this perfect dream that moving away was gonna somehow made it all okay.
I mean, is it really freedom.. when you have to wait until the stars to be aligned in a specific way on a particular day, for you to feel “free”.
Anyway my point is..
I believe we are all here to create and pursue whatever that please us. While there is no judgement on your big dream (like building a business, travelling, finding a partner), Your intention. matters. Not to anyone else, but to you. You would feel it. eventually.
A place of love is: Inspiration. Pure excitement. Curiosity. It is genuine. You are not proving anything to anyone. You don’t compare. You are fully present. You are doing it for you. It feels light and free. It fills you up. It sustains you. The process is the reward, not the end goal.
A place of lack is: A deep sense of fear. Insecurity. Seeking something outside of yourself to fulfil your own lack. Trying to prove someone right/ wrong. Chasing after that “one day”. It is all about getting “there” even though you can’t describe where “ there” is. It feels heavy. It drains you.
Am I coming from a place of lack ? or Love?
Keep asking myself this question has been life changing for me, it also helps me get through uncomfortable situations, like going to a big meeting, getting into a disagreement with someone.
Whatever you do, as long as it is coming from a place of love- you know you will be ok… no matter what.
When in doubt, choose love.